Positive Spin

I think one of the biggest challenges single people face is keeping our self esteem up. Every little rejection, whether perceived or real, seems to take a toll on the way we see ourselves. When you've been single for a long time, the damage becomes more and more apparent in the way you think and carry yourself.

I struggle with this and so do most of my single friends. My initial responses to feelings of rejection are often something like this:

*A guy says "let's do something" but doesn't actually call = my thighs must be fat.
*A guy flirts with me but doesn't ask me out = I have a good personality, but I'm unattractive (a "sweet spirit" if you will).
*I haven't been asked out in a long time = I'm ugly and my ears stick out.
*I've been on several first dates but not as many second dates = my personality is lame.
*I cook dinner for a guy and he throws up = I'm a bad cook.
*A guy takes one look at me and says I'm under dressed for the symphony = I shouldn't have worn my "Team Jacob" t-shirt.

Years of these thoughts added one on top of another leave a single person with less than ideal self esteem. How do you fight this? Well, I have a guy friend who has amazing self esteem. I asked him how he does it and he said, "I just tell myself that every girl I know wants me." He told me that I should do that with guys too. I tried and couldn't manage it. But I do think I can change the sentences above into something positive:

*A guy says "let's do something" but doesn't actually call = he's watching a Walker Texas Ranger marathon and he lost his phone.
*A guy flirts with me but doesn't ask me out = he heard a rumor that I'm dating James Franco (and it turns out the rumor is true).
*I haven't been asked out in a long time = I should stop wearing my fake wedding ring.
*I've been on several first dates but not as many second dates = I need to stop challenging guys to "dance offs" on a first date.
*I cook dinner for a guy and he throws up = he's allergic to good cooking.
*A guy takes one look at me and says I'm under dressed for the symphony= He's jealous of my Team Jacob shirt. And with reason.

Yeah, I like this. I think turning negative self talk into positive, albeit ridiculous thoughts, might work. What are some of your positive affirmations? I'll give you some time to stare at the picture of James Franco before you comment.

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