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Thursday, March 15, 2012

Flawed

My sister shared this video with me the other day and it really spoke to me on the subject of self esteem and the way we see ourselves. I loved it and could relate to it 100%. Except that the girl who wrote it has always been self conscious about her nose and I've always been fine with my nose. To be honest, it's one of my favorite features. It doesn't stand out, it does its job and doesn't make a big fuss about it. But there are plenty of other things about my body that I have had a hard time dealing with over the years, and which I've practically defined myself by (negatively).

The video is 12 minutes long which initially almost made me not want to watch it, but it seriously flies by. It's very moving and I think you'll all be able to relate to it in one way or another. 



This video supports what I was saying the other day in my  post about self esteem. We don't love people because they are flawless; we love them because of who they are. As I've gotten older, I've gotten tired of always feeling self conscious about certain parts of my body and have been working hard on not obsessing over these parts. The interesting thing is that most of the time when you tell someone you're close with about the part of your body you're self conscious about, they are surprised. We're so much harsher on ourselves than other people are of us! We're not our nose. Or our butt. Or our hair. Or our mouth. Or our acne. Or our feet. We're much more than those parts.

What did you think of the video?

5 comments:

Jesse Davis said...

I once saw a trailer for a movie called "I am not my body". It was about a child burn victim, and his learning to deal with his situation. I didn't get a chance to watch it, but the title really stuck with me. Whether we think we are pretty or ugly, that's not who we are, and we shouldn't let it affect how we treat ourselves and others.

Katherine said...

Yay!! This video really is SO great, and I love how she shares this great message. I need to not worry about my flaws so much, either!!

Doug said...
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Jessica said...

beautiful. I love it!

SAC said...

Wonderful video, and I admit i've felt insecure about certain aspects of my physical appearance in my life. This video underscores something that to me is more of an issue and I think can be worse than physical appearance. Feeling that people don't like the way you look on the outside isn't as hard to deal with, and doesn't have as far reaching effects, I think at least, than feeling like people are ok with you on the outside, but don't like the real you on the inside. To be honest, that's the situation I'm in personally. I've never had people tell me I looked weird, in fact, I've got more good attention than bad, partially from the obvious hair color of mine, but other feedback reflecting on ME, has steered me down a path of thinking that people don't think much of me, don't like me, or at the very least don't really care one way or another about me(with a few exceptions). Both, on the physical stage and on the inward, are challenging to get over. It can be very hard, and positive self talk and being in a good relationship(that can really backfire) are not always easy options, or even possible. Hmm, well, I find my fingers running away with me into the negativity spectrum. Positive thoughts positive thoughts! Lets give people around us positive feedback, let them know good things about themselves!