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Sunday, February 8, 2009

The science of love

With less than one week to Valentine's Day, maybe you're like me: Valentine-less. I was talking to someone tonight about love, romance, and finding that special someone and he told me about a special he had seen on 20/20. In this program, they were talking with a relationship expert, Helen Fisher (here's a link to the article).

Fisher created a test to determine a person's personality for dating and marriage, which she believes explains a lot about who we are attracted to. She concluded that there are four basic personality types when it comes to dating. Click here to take the quiz and find out your "type."

If you don't feel like reading the article, here are some of the details and a brief description of the four types:
Explorers: risk taking
Builders: calm, traditional
Directors: analytical, tough minded, decisive
Negotiators: emotionally expressive, empathetic

When it comes to dating, her findings concluded that:
Explorers go for Explorers
Builders go for Builders
Directors go for Negotiators
Negotiators go for Directors

I took the test and discovered that I am a negotiator/explorer. And based on the description the quiz results gave of the negotiator, I'd say that's about right. So I guess I'll be spending this week looking for a director? (I'll allow that the search *might* take more than a week.)

I don't know if there is any truth to Helen Fisher's findings, but I figured with Valentine's Day this week, it might be fun to take a love/relationship quiz. (Or maybe it's putting salt in the wound?)

If any of my married friends take the quiz, I'd be curious to know how you match up with your spouse as far as the test results go. Also, if you know any single directors out there, send them my way. It's for science.

13 comments:

Brady said...

So it turns out I'm an Explorer / builder. That is of course taking the test while I was eating breakfast. I've been wanting to take that test since Bishop mentioned it, so I'm glad that you blogged it, because I would have continued to forget about it.

Christi said...

I'm a builder/director. So it says I need a builder/negotiator. I'd say that's pretty accurate. Now, if there was just an easy way to find a builder/negotiator!

Kathy said...

Well, I am negotiator/builder, which is very accurate. And it says that I go for director/builders, which I would say is pretty accurate. I do look to Alex for decisions and he has all of the qualities of a builder. This test was so much fun!

But just a little word to the wise (Elizabeth, Justin, Taco Bell and the rest of MR): "When you feel betrayed you can be unforgiving and hold a grudge too long."

Sarah said...

I'm definitely taking this test later...can't believe I'd had to go through life not knowing this key piece of info!! By the way, Kathy, I've never met you, but the fact that you just used a personality test to threaten Taco Bell is one of the funniest things I've read in a long time! GO YOU!! :)

Kathy said...

Thanks Sarah! I just felt like TB deserved fair warning after ripping something so delicious out of my reach. ;)

Katherine said...

I'm a Builder/Negotiator, and I also was surprised at how accurate it was!! SpoOoOooOoooky! I think this test is run by ghosts.

Angie Cheney said...

I thought it was pretty accurate, some things weren't really true though. It said I am a Builder/Director...just reading the Builder stuff I wouldn't have said that was me, but it pulled certain things out of it, and those were me...I think it is accurate of who I would look for and Frank has definitely provided me with those things, stable family life, career, financial stability, all VERY important to me.

Angie Cheney said...

I had Frank take it and he came out Builder/negotiator, so yeah, pretty much perfect match. I thought his was right on.

Abram said...

I'm just commenting to say that your mom had the single best comment ever on our blog. I can't stop thinking about it. I love your mom. In fact, to link it to this post, I bet if I took the test and your mom took the test, Papa Downey would have to hunt me down and hurt me. Oh yeah, I said it.

Elizabeth Downie said...

Abram. I just went to your blog to check it out and that's hilarious! You crack me up. I'm glad you like my parents so much. Trust me, they love you guys too!

alecia said...

ok, Justin and I finally took it. I am a negotiator/director and he is a builder/director. Are we doomed??? :)It was spot on for Justin. I'm definitely a mix of negotiator and director.

The Spin-ster said...

Can I just say that I also thoroughly enjoyed your mom's comment (I mean how could you not) AND I also thoroughly enjoyed abram's here. And I'm also scared at how many married women he is stalking. Or at least "looking and liking" if you get my drift.
Have you talked to McKell MasterKoff lately?

Elizabeth Downie said...

No, I haven't talked to MMK lately - except for e-mails. I LOVE her nickname by the way! It makes me laugh still. I miss you guys! I'll be there next week for the Office :)