Monday, June 21, 2010

My so called love life

I know I told you I would write a dating post later last week and I haven't delivered on that yet. When it comes down to it, I have three reasons for not having written it yet:

1. I've been thinking a lot about what I want to write and frankly, I'm not sure I feel like getting into it. It's this big Pandora's box of the most confusing dating situations you can imagine. I'm just not sure that's a box I want to open in a public forum.

2. I've been working a bit on my other blog (link). I usually neglect my other blog quite a bit but I gave it some much needed attention over the weekend.

3. I'm not sure I have a sense of humor yet about my so-called love life right now.

Since I don't have a sense of humor about some stuff I'm currently going through, I'll tell you a funny story about a really bad first date I went on years ago.

So, this guy I'd known for awhile asked me out to dinner. He'd hinted at us going out for awhile but I wasn't interested in him so I put it off. He wasn't a bad guy, I just didn't think of him that way. Finally, he cornered me and I agreed to go out with him. We decided to meet at the restaurant and when I got there (on time), he was already seated.

I could tell right away that something was up. He was normally talkative and outgoing but he was being really quiet and seemed kind of ticked. I'm pretty good at monologuing so I just started talking, hoping to get him to loosen up a bit.

Finally our food arrived and my only thought was "eat as fast as possible and get out of here." He seemed to have the opposite thought - I've never seen a man eat more slowly. And his mood was not changing. Finally, tired of my monologuing and apparently choosing to punish me further, he said, "So, I talked to T-- the other day."

T-- was a close friend of mine who had a bad habit of saying the exact thing he shouldn't say. Right away, I knew what had happened. T-- had indicated to this guy that I didn't want to go out with him (I later confirmed this with a bashful T--). My date didn't say anything else about it so I just said, "Yeah, well, T-- is an idiot (piecing together what must have happened)." And started talking about something else.

Why this guy decided to go on the date with me after all instead of just canceling it, I have no idea. All I know is that when the bill arrived, I put my half of the money down and said with a smile, "see you later." I heard from a friend later that this guy said I was "uptight." The nerve!

Do you have a bad first date story? I'd love to hear it.


Katherine said...

Ah, I love a good bad first date story. ;) I feel like all of my dates are awkward. One of the worst of mine was when I went out with an artist (I don't like to date artists - I need someone with a different temperament) and I quickly realized (on our date to IKEA) that our styles (artistically) were completely opposite and we could never work. I think he realized the same thing, because it was a rather awkward date with a good bit of monologuing on my part, too. Seems like a silly reason to have a bad date, but what can I say? Artists are weird like that. ;) I guess in general when you go on a date with someone and discover that something you thought you had in common (say, a love of football) becomes a dividing factor (ie one of you lives and breathes U of M football, the other's a die-hard OSU fan) then it can end something just as quickly as it started. I think it's referred to in divorce proceedings as "irreconcilable differences." Best to avoid it early on! ;)

The Boob Nazi said...

I said something on my first date ever that I can't even tell people.

Anonymous said...

I took a girl on a first date that spent most of the dinner talking about another guy she liked and I still paid for dinner. I guess only one of us was on a date.

An admirer from the distance. ;)

Erin said...

I told you about the time I went on a date with someone and wasn't sure what his name was the whole time we were out? I think I tried to swipe his driver's license to check at some point...

Mark said...

A girl at BYU asked me on a double date with another couple. We had dinner, played some games, then my date insisted I walk the other girl home. I can't remember what the term for "unwitting wingman" was back in the '80s.

D said...

I made the mistake of telling a guy I met at a BYU football game my full name and he looked me up in the directory. He was creepy! He was full of lines when we talked on the phone about how we were destined to meet and must have known each other in heaven... all this because I looked like an ex-girlfriend of his. He would call ALL the time(his number was on the do not answer list in our house but he took a break for a few months and then randomly called and someone answered) and so I finally agreed to a date to get him to stop. I was able to control the date and planned a big group date to see a friend in a local play. Poor guy could definitely tell I was put off by him on the date but finally he stopped calling.

Drake said...

Wow... If I'd been in his place I would've tried to get out of there with a little dignity in tact. Either he's really passive aggressive or he's a huge glutton for punishment.

Liz said...

Uptight?! Do you need me to beat this guy up?