tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post6005524047664749476..comments2023-10-25T04:56:54.432-04:00Comments on Elizabeth Downie: The Eternal QuestionElizabeth Downiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14985143085882983821noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-1144679396160591722011-12-26T01:30:54.713-05:002011-12-26T01:30:54.713-05:00Alright Elizabeth, I'll answer this one.
The ...Alright Elizabeth, I'll answer this one.<br /><br />The answer is no, guys and girls can't "just be friends." He either has an interest in you or is using you for an in with other girls including your friends.<br /><br />Whether he's a "shy" guy, a player, or somewhere inbetween, a guys not all into it just to be friends.<br /><br />Guys have guy friends to: watch/play sports with, have a wingman to help them meet girls, and share war stories with.<br /><br />Guys have girl friends to: get them closer to becoming a girlfriend, help them meet other girls mainly their friends or sister, have fun with (aka lip lock), or to boost their confidence.<br /><br />A little blunt, perhaps? Here's the thing... How many of your "friends" will be your close friends in 10 years. How many friends did you think you were close to 2 years ago that you rarely even talk to anymore?<br /><br />Any and all girl friends I've ever had I've either been interested in at some point (ex-gf's, girls I've taken out a few times, etc.), been interested in one of their friends/sisters, or home taught.<br /><br />Point is: Can guys and girls be acquaintances? Yes, absolutely. Can they really be friends with no interest at any point? No.<br /><br />And guess what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.Ryan@TheSinglesWardhttp://www.thesinglesward.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-73050514089591058862011-12-09T03:06:01.584-05:002011-12-09T03:06:01.584-05:00Guys hang out with girls they like. This is a comm...Guys hang out with girls they like. This is a common shy guy tactic: hang out with the girl enough to know she's worth the risk of asking out. If they want something more than just a friendship, then they will act on it once they gained the courage *unless* you have (A) shut them down or (B) are unavailable.<br /><br />A word of warning: dating your friend is the BEST way to ruin a friendship... but it's also a great way to find a spouse!<br /><br />Note: feelings can change over time. A guy can honestly be not into you at all and then one day realize he is, at which point he will start acting "weird" around you.Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14155640290196472835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-1324420644074115392011-12-08T23:14:47.564-05:002011-12-08T23:14:47.564-05:00Claire, I love it. Totally agree!!Claire, I love it. Totally agree!!Elizabeth Downiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14985143085882983821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-24091152841814442722011-12-08T19:00:02.843-05:002011-12-08T19:00:02.843-05:00You just have to meet Gerard Depardieu and want an...You just have to meet Gerard Depardieu and want an exclusive New York apartment.violet50https://www.blogger.com/profile/10517566712232662393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-76087473757745156362011-12-08T16:13:13.443-05:002011-12-08T16:13:13.443-05:00Noooooo!!!!!
I hate everything about this video. ...Noooooo!!!!!<br /><br />I hate everything about this video. Seriously, everything. The guy that made it is in my ward, and this video has been popping up on my facebook feed all week. <br /><br />Ok, it is totally possible for men and women to be friends. I know guys with lots of girl friends, and there is no way they are interested in all of them. I have lots of guy friends, and there is no way they are all interested in me. <br /><br />This also makes it seem like guys are soooo upfront about their feelings and that women know it and string them along. False. If a guy is interested in a girl, he has no right to whine about being in the friendzone unless he has done something to get out of it. Hint- being nice or spending time with her does not count as doing something to get out of the friendzone. Ask. Her. Out. Also, romantic comedies have fueled this ridiculous idea that if a girl isn't interested, that if the guy sticks around and stays friends with her, eventually she'll come around. This is not a rule you should use. If you are interested in someone and she says she doesn't feel the same way, and you agree to be friends, that is exactly what you are agreeing to- not agreeing to "she'll date around and eventually loooove meeeee....." So when guys think like that, they end up jaded and disappointed and annoyed that they were "strung along" for so long. <br /><br />Sigh. end rant.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15497944266826296448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-85290369315481723882011-12-08T11:44:23.271-05:002011-12-08T11:44:23.271-05:00I don't totally understand your comment, Adam,...I don't totally understand your comment, Adam, but the last part doesn't surprise me. I knew you'd say something like that. You wish! ;)<br /><br />Nate, I love your insights! I wonder what other guys think?Elizabeth Downiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14985143085882983821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-91475245162038188102011-12-08T11:41:48.168-05:002011-12-08T11:41:48.168-05:00Katherine, that guy likes you, whether you know i...Katherine, that guy likes you, whether you know it or not. Even if you 'talk about your friendship,' it's still a ploy and he's bidding his time until you open up the opportunity. You've got to believe me on this one, unless the guy has a love interest somewhere else, he's into you. Especially if you're 'hanging out' alot.Nate Stamperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14440909191885778170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-52794307075464747862011-12-08T11:30:49.153-05:002011-12-08T11:30:49.153-05:00Bringing up the guy you weren't into and it wa...Bringing up the guy you weren't into and it was mutual does nothing for this conversation. If a guy is into the girl he can be ok with being friends but he will always think about the "what if's."<br /><br />You and I are friends even though you try to love me every day of your life. (I had to)NOURNMEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06298179465620879546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-78095233311115797332011-12-08T10:18:13.149-05:002011-12-08T10:18:13.149-05:00I agree with what you said about being able to be ...I agree with what you said about being able to be just friends if you are open and talk about it. One of my closest friends is a guy, and we've been very open about the fact that we're not interested in each other, so there's no awkwardness on either side. With pretty much all other (single) guys, there are all of those problems you mentioned. (Especially the green card - what is it with Canadian guys?) ;)Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00421409632244031191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-45190446123134134702011-12-08T10:08:21.974-05:002011-12-08T10:08:21.974-05:00It's this simple. Men and women can't be ...It's this simple. Men and women can't be friends, unless*. Guys always want to 'hook-up' unless* they have a love interest somewhere else. Girls just have better self control over their emotions. Some guys will 'hook-up' for the sake of hooking up; imagine the gall! Girls, if they like the guy, typically won't make the first move, so, although they'd like to 'hook-up,' they won't out of self-conscienceness. <br /><br />Ladies, a word of advice: if you hang out with a guy a lot, chances are HE LIKES YOU. If you like him too, then do something to SHOW him that. That's not a green light to 'hook-up,' but showing someone you like them may be the key to getting him to act like a man. Remember, men always want to 'hook-up,' the hard part for the women is determining whether you want him afterward.<br />**When referencing 'hook-up,' I mean it in the innocent Mormon way...**Nate Stamperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14440909191885778170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449255540951766363.post-59177880575746328742011-12-08T09:26:24.815-05:002011-12-08T09:26:24.815-05:00That was a very scientific study for a very repres...That was a very scientific study for a very representative sample. I guess it's concluded. I've been convince. <br />;)Polly Annanoreply@blogger.com